Should is another word for guilt

Should is another word for guilt

I should lose weight. I should wake up earlier. I should pay my credit card bill.

Let me ask you a question: have you EVER felt good about doing something you should do?

Probably not.

Should is an energy zapper. It is a low-vibe, low-frequency word that does nothing to lift you up or put you in a positive frame of mind. It is really just another word for guilt or failure.

I hear the word should a lot. Heck, I use it sometimes (always before some action I am not at all interested in taking). Yet I know it’s just another word for guilt, so I recoil a bit when I hear it.

Lately, I’ve been paying attention to the word should, and how I feel when I say it or think it. I realized that few things can kill my buzz faster than the word should. It sucks any joy out of what I’m doing.

I’ve decided to use words for happy feelings because I want to live a high-vibe life — and that starts with high-vibe language and feelings.

Reframing the shoulds of life is actually very easy. It’s a simple matter of reframing the conversation. Instead of thinking I should do something, I realize I get to do those things.

  • I get to go to the gym and exercise my body so it stays strong.
  • I get to eat healthy foods that nourish me.
  • I get to pay bills for the necessities that make my life enjoyable (like power and water).
  • I get to wake up early every morning to meditate and write.

I’m tingling from the energy of those statements! I can’t wait to do ALL of them.

What about you? What shoulds in your life would bring you joy if you just reframed the thought and used more words for happy feelings?

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Networking for Introverts

Networking for Introverts

Introverts of the world: you CAN have business success. In this video, I discuss Networking for Introverts, a subject I know well as an introvert with success in business! And if you want to learn more, book a Biz Breakthrough call and we can talk strategy for your next networking event.

When I launched my first business and started networking, I dreaded it. I saw networking as a necessary evil, but definitely an evil. I hated it. Networking for introverts simply is not the same as it is for extroverts (who are 75% of the population, by the way.

The prevailing wisdom about networking back then was that you had to work the room and talk to as many people as possible. It felt like speed dating. Especially when people who quickly decided I had nothing to offer would just walk away (I witnessed some pretty intense rudeness at those events). Most times, I would go to the event because I knew I should, but I’d end up hiding in a corner until I could leave — not a very effective tactic.

Over the years, I developed some introvert success tactics that make networking for introverts much easier, and I dare say enjoyable! It’s all about being selective. Choosing how many events you’ll do (limit them to preserve your energy), the format (making sure you don’t choose events that drain you), and who you’ll talk to (as in, not everyone there).

When I started doing these three things, my networking life changed. It was no longer a chore. In fact, I have several networking events I attend regularly now because I like them so much. I never thought I’d say that 15 years ago!

You CAN be a successful business owner as an introvert. I am proof. Us introverts in business need to stick together and help each other have success. Follow these networking tips, and you will be on the road.

Feeling energized and ready to do some networking? I’d love it if you popped down into the comments and tell me one thing you will implement at your next networking event.

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How to be a successful business woman in middle age

How to be a successful business woman in middle age

Opening a small business. Being your own boss. That’s the dream. At least it is for about 80% of the women I speak to. I get it. I’ve been a business owner for a very long time and I love it! Women ask me how to be a successful business woman in middle age.

Good question. While women are opening businesses in droves, it seems they’re all really, really young. Do you even remember being 30? I do. In fact, I opened my first business when I was 36. Boy do I wish I knew now what I knew then. I opened this coaching business at the age of 51. Fifty One. 5-1. And it has been GREAT! You know what the best thing about it is? I know things. Us middle aged women have wisdom, and that means we have the potential to rock the world. Seriously, we can change things.

So, want to know how to be a successful business woman in middle age? Learn from those who have gone before you. Be as smart as I know you are. And follow my three tips for success: find your passion, invest, and get support. I think those are the keys for launching a business that will thrive without risking your life savings. About that support part, check out my Gutsy Femeprenuer program. I designed specifically for middle age women who are ready to take control of their work life. And watch these three YouTube videos. I did a whole series on this topic just for you.

  1. Find Your Passion

    First, I want you to know that when you ask “how to start my own business,” you will get a ton of great advice. But having now started six business—some that succeeded and some that failed—I can tell you being a successful business woman in middle age starts with passion.

    Think about it: you are switching careers to do this. You’ve spent your whole career doing work you may have only sort of cared about, right? Or you loved it once, but now are burnt out. Why do that again? If you are not passionate about what you are doing in your business, finding the energy to do all the little things that make a business woman successful will be downright impossible. This video provides a simple suggestion for how to get in touch with your work passion.

  2. Invest

    Having now started six business—some that succeeded and some that failed—I can tell you being a successful business woman in middle age involves a financial investment. Period.

    And the amount matters. I built my graphic design agency with only a minimal financial investment (we each put in $3,000 and then had a $20,000 line of credit), but that business never really really grew. I did invest in the massage center and my coaching business and boy what a difference!

    Here is the truth: building a business versus having a hobby is about investment, both financial and personal development. You WILL hit hurdles you don’t expect, and if you aren’t ready to face them head on, you’ll give up. Watch the video to learn more about the importance of investing for success.

  3. Get support

Being a successful business woman in middle age involves asking for help and learning how to receive that help.

The truth is, you cannot do it alone. Having mentors and people to mastermind with is invaluable. They’ll share tips and tricks, they’ll help figure out challenges, and they’ll be there for you on the rollercoaster ride of entrepreneurship.

Building a business versus having a hobby is about finding passion, investment, and seeking help. You WILL hit hurdles you don’t expect, and if you aren’t ready to face them head on, you’ll give up. Watch the video to learn more about the importance of asking for help.

How will you be successful?

If you’re dreaming of starting a business, or perhaps just launched, where do you most need help? Drop down in the comments and let me know.

Is Lack of Money Ruining Your Pursuit of Happiness?

Is Lack of Money Ruining Your Pursuit of Happiness?

Do you struggle to find money to invest in yourself? If you do, you are not alone. Every day I talk to women who struggle to find the money to invest in themselves… the most important investment anyone can make.

I know from personal experience that if I know something will really make a difference in my life that I will find the money to invest in it. I’ve done this so many times, and I know I’ll do it more. I’ve done it for $100 products to $50,000 programs. In fact, I did it just a few days ago. If the investment will help me, the money will come.

The absolute truth is, I think about 70% of the time a woman says she doesn’t have the money for a personal development program, she does. I have said I can’t afford things many times because I either didn’t see the value or (and this is important) I was scared of the work. After all, what happens if you do the work and life still isn’t how you want it to be? I get it. That fear ruled me for years. I’m over it now, thank God.

Anyway, I digress.

For those women who really do want to invest and don’t see how they’ll find the money, I have a treat for you. I believe you do have the money. You just need to find it. To help you out, I created a money mojo tip sheet with my seven FAVORITE ways to manifest the investment you need to the thing you really want. Once you practice activating your money mojo, you will find that investing in yourself doesn’t seem so scary because you know you’ll be able to find the money.

Download the tip sheet today and watch your financial life transform!