“What to do when life at work overwhelms me?” Oh boy is this a question I get a lot. So many women what to do when life at work overwhelms me. It is followed closely by “what to do when you feel overwhelmed at work.” The common word there being “overwhelmed.” I get it. When I worked in corporate, I often felt completely overwhelmed. Nobody likes feeling overwhelmed at work, and I am not the exception. So figuring out how to handle stress at work was a constant focus of my attention.
I have many tools for managing overwhelm, and I share two of them in this short video. I hope they help you out. I’m just launching my YouTube channel and would love for you to subscribe. So after you watch the video, comment, like and subscribe. And let me know how these tips help you when you are feeling overwhelmed at work.
Answering the question of what to do when life at work overwhelms me is so liberating…and it’s so easy to do. These exercises take less than a minute and they completely reframe your thoughts and your day.
Before you read another word of this post, I want you to stop and think of one annoying little thing you have been enduring. Got it? Now imagine how free you would feel if that annoyance was gone. Can you feel the lightness? Ok, maybe go deal with it and then come back here. I’ll wait…
About 12 years ago, I came across a book that changed my life. I found it at the library while I was looking for… actually, I have no idea what I was looking for. I think some sort of time management book. Anyway, I found “Coach Yourself to Success” by Talane Miedaner.
At the time, I had no idea what a life coach was. But I grabbed the book anyway. Six months later, I had accomplished too many things to count. From that moment on, I knew coaching was great. In fact, not long after I read this book, I decided to work with a coach directly. Over the course of the two years she guided me, I wrote a novel and addressed many of the “adult” things I consistently avoided.
What does that have to do with my question? Well, the first thing Talane has her readers do is make a list of 60 to 100 things in your life you are enduring, and then fix them. It’s genius really. That feeling of annoyance drains your energy and steals your joy. It doesn’t matter whether the thing is big or small; it still drains you. And when you are constantly drained, it is nearly impossible to not only figure out what will make you happy, but to go for it.
I still remember some of the things on my first list: paint the living room (big) and sew the button on my favorite pants (only one year after it popped off!).
Last week, my husband and I started on a new list. One of the things was to clean the refrigerator — a task I hate. But something leaked in there long enough ago that I’m embarrassed to admit it, and it has been grossing me out every time I open the door. This morning, I did it! I got rid of the grossness. It only took 20 minutes, and I am so happy. I just want to stare inside the fridge.
Another thing was removing a paper string from a hook on the wall that holds an old violin. I have no idea how it got there, or even why it would be there. I do know I looked at that for MORE THAN A YEAR. No joke. And it took me less than 10 seconds to deal with it. Don’t be like me.
So start making your list and checking things off! Not everything can be dealt with in 10 seconds or 20 minutes, but you will be surprised at what can be. Once you have your list, carve out an evening or a whole day to just take care of the list. You will feel amazingly light after. If you feel up to it, share some of the annoyances you no longer need to endure. I’m going to go look in my fridge again.