Time for a Change?

Time for a Change?

I love mornings when the universe sends me messages on Facebook. You know, those days where you see several posts in a row all with a similarly themed message. Usually, those messages relate to coffee, lol. This morning, those messages were about change and what it takes to transform.

The first was this inspiring article in Runner’s World (a friend shared it in my running group). Man. I just want to fly to Australia and kiss this woman. She has figured out what matters to her, and she is making the hard choice every day to do what she needs to do. And it is hard. I think, though, that she has a very clear picture of what her happiness looks like. It’s not the weight loss; it’s the freedom to be the mother, wife and friend she wants to be. Inspiring.

I finished that article with a little song in my heart and smile on my fact, and popped over to my news feed. There, I immediately saw this quote:

Nothing happens until the pain of remaining the same outweighs the pain of change.
~ Arthur Burt

Yep. The woman in the article knows that.

How much pain it takes is an individual question. I see a lot of people in my daily life that live with much more than I can tolerate. In the past, I could tolerate a lot. I think back to high school and college—I was hurting all the time. But I was more afraid of what waited on the other side of the pain than living in misery. Thank God I’m older now. Now, the more I work on living my happiest life possible, the less pain I can handle. It’s kind of amazing.

So where am I going with this? I think when the universe sends a message, it is wise to listen. Right now, I need to meditate on what needs to change in my life.

Here is one thing I know to be true: happiness isn’t a one-and-done deal. You evolve. Your life evolves. That means your happiness evolves. Living a happy life means staying in tune with what you need and want on a daily basis, and make sure your actions align with that. I feel a little out of alignment right now, and have been avoiding the change. I have been using my post-shoulder surgery physical recovery as my excuse. But I’m six weeks out of surgery and my recovery is going great. I still have months of work, but I’m beyond using it as an excuse to stay stuck. I don’t have my answers yet, but I will because I feel inspired this morning.

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Do you invest in yourself?

Do you invest in yourself?

As I sit here on my couch working on a module for a coaching program I’m taking, I’ve been thinking of why coaching is so important. The short answer is: The decision to work with a coach is really a decision to invest in yourself. It’s a decision to take your own needs seriously, at the same time as acknowledging you can’t do everything alone. A coach is a sherpa, and sherpas keep you safe on on track.

Over the years, I have worked with several coaches. I’ve read coaching books that helped me get my life in order. I’ve done coaching programs that helped grow my business. And I’ve worked with two life coaches one-on-one. The first time, the coach helped me identify some HUGE mindset blocks from my childhood. These blocks were preventing me from fully investing in any relationships (friends, family and romantic), and in having a healthy romantic relationship. This was not why I started working with her. At the time, I wanted to write a novel. As she coached me through that, this other stuff came up. And she helped me address it (supporting me to get some other help I needed and being there for me). I finished the book and met my husband. I consider that a good investment in myself!

I think depending on who you are and what you want, there are different levels and types of coaching that will help you. But I think some sort of coaching is critical. Support matters. Maybe a book will give it to you. Maybe an online class. Or maybe it is one-on-one work with a person you trust.

The good news is there are tons of options for you! I am one of probably hundreds of coaches here in the DC area alone. We’re all a little bit different in our approach, and that is good news for you! That means you can find a person who is the absolute right fit at the right time. (If you’re curious whether I’m a good fit, schedule a discovery call...it’s free!)

I mentioned I’m dong a program. I am investing in this coaching business. I want to help at least 500 women every year, but I can only work one-on-one with about 50. That means I need support. I found a coach that can get me to that number. I’m pretty darn excited.

What do you need help with right now?